[PrimeTime]

Hello sc2sea ,
Yes most of u will ask who i am , i'm just a bronze player in Starcraft 2 , so most or even all the people won't recognise me.
I love this forum and has been actively checking for updates but never post anything myself because i know not a thing more than the people in here , but i read a lot from here.

And since this is the only forum i'm active in , i would like to ask for solution and advice.
I'm currently dealing with my father who has a gambling problem and getting worse and worse.
This cycle has occur to me in my family for like since i know about things.
He would first gamble with small amount of money , then after a while time , he will start betting bigger and bigger , and eventually lose big bet , after the huge lost , he would said to me , my mother and my sister to keep the gadget like laptop and internet connection from him , and promised us that he won't gamble again , and after a month or so , he would ask for the laptop and internet connection again , if we don't give him , he'll stare to me and my sister with angry look , and will ask again with a louder voice and keep louder until we give him , there was a couple time where he go physical with my mother , that was when i was still like 10 years old. After receiving his laptop and internet connection , he'll gamble again with small amount of money and eventually the cycle will go around again.
He's currently in his mid 50s , and has no job , where the money left to support our family is the pension money and previous works' money.
He doesn't have any more income and still he gamble away what is left.

I have search the internet and found that there's treatment but need a his willingness , where it's an impossible things to do because he won't admit that he has gambling problem.
Worst of all , most of his friends he hangs out everyday are richer than him , and gamble too.

My mother and my sister is a passive type , and they just can scold him with few words , but then let him gamble , everytime he asks for laptop and internet connection , things won't do good in our family , i will argue with him , but my mother will stop me , telling me to give him what he wants just so that my mother can go to sleep.
My mother even buy sleeping pills because sometimes , when he gambles in the middle of the night , he open all the lights in the room and my mother won't get a chance to sleep.
Sometimes my mother even move to my sister's bedroom and sleep with my sister.
Some of the nights my mother will come to my room and have a chat with me and told me how stress she is , and telling me how tide financial is and father is making it worse , and etc.
My mother once told me that financial in our family is very tide , and starting to go down faster with my father's gambling.
I can't bare seeing my mother so desperately and patiently holding her tears and cries.

He ever once told us (my family) , that one of his friend got bankrupt because of gambling and has lost everything , from a big house , elite cars , etc. Now he's in jail , and his wife is trying her best to live the life with nothing much left , but he never took any lesson from what he told us.

I'm 19 years old (1992) , am going to enter college this year , i'm afraid that things will get worse and worse in my family , i'm afraid i can't finish my college because of father and losing everything.
What i wish is to be able to finish college and be sucessful and can live my own and take over the leading financial in my family where i'm the one in control.

I'm in a desperate moment where i don't know what to do , whom to talk , i just hope by posting in this forum , i'll get solution and stop things before it goes worse and worse.

Any advices and solutions given by people from sc2sea will sure be a help for me.


Thanks for reading,
You have my regards,
PrimeTime

Quick Comments

	nirvAnA:	thanks for sharing this sincere story, all the best to you
	Sagachii:
	Nemo:	You're very courageous
	aLtShortizz:	Really you should get help from him. Does he have really close friends or relatives to knock some sense into him? Getting him to a counsellor is a huge step.